His main selling point is that he has a witty username.
I’m paying half.” My roommate wants him to be the one.
On the other hand, expectations that are too low can create all kinds of troubles.
Like most Hasidic Jews (we both became religious later in life), our dating period lasted a very short time. I mean, how you can feel that burning love when you’re sitting at the table discussing how to use the last twenty dollars in your bank account? How can you feel it when you think it makes perfect sense to put your socks on the floor after you’re done with them, and she has this crazy idea that they need to go in the laundry basket? And now, as I’m a bit older and a bit more experienced with this relationship, I’ve finally come to realize something.
Why wasn’t I getting reciprocal lovey-doveyness when we were first married? From Disney movies to my favorite shows like “The Office” to practically every pop song released, love is constantly sold as an emotion we have before we’re married.
And that’s why my wife just gave me that half-smile. And now that I’ve tried to change the way I look at love, the more I become shocked at the messages of love I had gotten when I was younger.
Plus, that person will always be able to sense your disappointment, which means that he or she won’t feel good about the time you two spend together, either. You may want to date a Kennedy with a perfect body, a hilarious sense of humor, and a deep soul, but good luck finding that person.
Be careful about setting up predetermined and unrealistic standards in your mind. We all have certain flaws, and creating a healthy and fulfilling relationship is about finding a like-minded person who offers much of what we’re looking for in a partner, and then compromising and negotiating on the issues where differences occur.