Why would God forbid intimacy before marriage but yet give people such powerful sexual urges?? Now, I am not blaming my dad or the church or Christianity for my decision to have premarital sex.
I wanted a baby, I was in my mid 30s at this point (tick tock tick tock).
She remembers very clearly what helped her end that relationship and that was accepting that God had a plan for her. God has always played a part in my life and He has a plan for me.
I didn’t always believe that but as soon as I figured out He had a plan for me and I let Him take charge and lead the way, life got much easier.
Connie: This was sent to me by an reader of Culture Rebel about her journey of sex, a painful divorce, and what sex life looks like now. It’s time for the rebels to rise up and talk about sex again….. I was sure my father would be disappointed – as he made it very clear of his disapproval when I moved in with my boyfriend months earlier– but we didn’t have a close relationship and I did not consider his opinion valuable. It was one of the scariest and devastating thing I have ever experienced. I do not think sleeping with my now ex-husband caused the deterioration of our marriage.
Purity and defined lines of sexuality have been blurred by so many changing elements in our world. He was the second man I was sexually intimate with. We started planning a quick wedding, 3 months away. And boy, did I cling to God to get me through the financial mess, the emotional mess (ok, still working on that one) and the spiritual mess my life was in.