HIV is transmitted through condom-less intercourse and intravenous drug use, not bisexual males who practice safe sex.Want more of Bustle's Sex and Relationships coverage?Queer men are many things, but a mind reader is not one of them. If you need something, and it’s important to you, make the clear. You either did this one thing, or you have a tendency to repeatedly do these group of stuff that I don't appreciate. Don’t bring up every single little thing that he has ever done wrong that has nothing to do with the issue at hand.
People want someone to blame, but bisexual men shouldn't be the scapegoat.Yes, there are some circumstances when a boyfriend asks you to closet yourself in front of an old, dying homophobic grandma or something like that, but I’d say 95 percent of the time, he shouldn’t ask you to closet yourself. One of those big things is giving up your friends to spend time with him. But during dinner, or when he’s trying to have a real conversation, get off your damn phone! I can’t even begin to tell you how guilty I am of this. If something is upsetting you, you need to say something to avoid festering in it. But no matter what, no matter how angry you get, you need to treat him with respect. Often times, because we have trouble saying n0 (see reason #6) our partner gently pressures us into doing something that we don’t feel comfortable doing. You should know if your partner has trouble saying no to things. You should be doing the opposite -- really making sure he feels comfortable and safe because you know he’s not likely to say no to you. You can’t have a real relationship without vulnerability. Never forget his positive attributes and the reasons you fell in love with him.I had an ex tell me, “I just want you to know that I want that.” How? Otherwise, what ends up happening is you get furious at something relatively trivial because you’ve been harboring such negative emotions towards your partner. This means you can never take up a nasty tone with him, no matter how annoyed you are. A fight or argument should focus on a particular issue. Things will undoubtedly get tough at some point in the relationship. He’s not supposed to be like the guys who came before him. You don’t want to be dating someone who’s exactly like your ex. You or he may come from a homophobic family who calls your sexual identity a “lifestyle.” They also may harass you with other homophobic remarks.A healthy same-sex couple does not tolerate homophobia from family. Don’t say you’re ok being in an open relationship if you’re not.