He followed Nguyen’s blog posts and video training chats that also chronicle Nguyen’s own transformation from a self-described “fugly” nerd to an entrepreneur self-assured enough to call his website The One Who Gets I’m going through that same kind of transformation.” IMMIGRANT STORY WITH A TWIST Nguyen’s personal story is a traditional immigrant tale – up until two years ago, when he decided he could help young men like himself become more sophisticated at dating.“Seeing videos and pictures of him from four years ago,” Bowers says, “you wouldn’t believe how much he’s changed. Nguyen was 3 when his parents fled Vietnam with him and his older brother.
“Now that I’ve faced the fear of rejection, I feel like I can be myself around people.” The first approach that October night at the Triangle turned out to be the worst rejection Bowers has had since working with Nguyen.
Nguyen, who earned a criminology degree at UC Irvine, says he was so nerdy in high school he wore white socks with sandals. I thought it was normal.” Nguyen says he lost the girlfriend he had started dating as a high school senior because he didn’t do enough to show his love. I studied a lot and figured out there were a lot of people who had trouble with relationships.” Nguyen found inspiration by immersing himself in the books and tapes of life coach Tony Robbins and other authors who wrote about self-improvement and relationships.
Too much of his free time in college went to online poker and video games. After his girlfriend broke up with him, Nguyen says, “I was freaking out. Instead of the law career he once planned, Nguyen decided to try his hand at becoming a dating coach.
If Bowers makes a connection with a woman, Nguyen can slip away to observe and offer a critique later.
Until he became Nguyen’s client, Bowers says, he pretty much stayed at home, too scared to try to socialize with women.