In 2013 Kania traveled to the National Catholic Singles Conference in Philadelphia.
She went for the speakers, the fellowship, and the info on theology of the body, but not necessarily to meet someone, she says. No matter what, she says, “I pray for myself and for my future spouse as we both are on our path to grow closer to the Lord, and if it is God’s will, we will meet when we are both ready.” Yet for other young adults, dating events geared specifically toward Catholics—or even general Catholic events—are less-than-ideal places to find a mate.
No matter where she finds her partner, she would like him to be a devout, practicing Catholic.
“I would want my husband to have God as the first priority, and then family, and then work,” she says, adding that it wouldn’t hurt if he also likes the outdoors.
“But it’s hard to say that I’m actively looking.” Kania earned her doctorate in physical therapy and works at a hospital in Wallingford, Connecticut.
For Catholics, discussions of faith can serve as a shortcut to discovering those shared values.After graduating with a theology degree from Fordham University in 2012, Stephanie Pennacchia, 24, joined the Jesuit Volunteer Corps in Los Angeles, where she worked at a drop-in center for teens experiencing homelessness.Today she is as a social worker who assists chronically homeless adults and says she is looking for someone with whom she can discuss her work and her spirituality.Upon my arrival at the bar, I immediately regretted it. “Huh, that’s sexy,” he said, taking another sip of his beer.The man who would be my date for the evening was already two drinks in, and he greeted me with an awkward hug. This particular gentleman didn’t turn out to be my soul mate.